I’d love to have some t&d fun with my own husband, but he’s convinced that it will make him hurt and sore. I don’t want to ACTUALLY hurt him, but is there a way that I could convince him to at least try? he’d already know that he wouldn’t be able to cum at all and that is a huge part that scares him. Should we just not try it?

I’d say start slow. Offer to tease him for an hour before letting him cum. When he admits how…